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Male erectile dysfunction linked to relationship problems

Posted on August 20, 2015 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (4)

With some men when they are not understood sexually in their relationship it can lead to male sexual dysfunction. The sexual dysfunction can then lead to their partner not getting sexual gratification and that can lead a man to having performance anxiety, which is a vicious cycle. Research has documented that men with sexual problems are significantly less satisfied sexually than men without sexual problems are. These findings relate to men with erectile difficulties (Matic, 2005; Swindle, Cameron, Lockhart & Rosen, 2004) In addition, a review of literature on men with delayed ejaculation have high levels of sexual dissatisfaction (Perelman &Rowland, 2006).


Most men at some point in their lives will experience some sexual difficulties, it is normal. They will either not be able to maintain an erection, early ejaculation or unable to climax. Prolonged problems in this area is what is referred to as a sexual dysfunction. One common problem that may occur is when a man has had difficulties with sexual function due to a stressful event, health related issue, or relationship stress and then it turns into performance problems because his wife or partner may not understand. A spouse may be upset with his lack of performance, not understanding it is normal once in a while and causing him more anxiety or even the man himself putting pressure on his own ability to perform sexually. Most men and women are not aware of the fact that there are times that a man has no control over his penis function. Once a man gets anxious his blood vessels constrict and eliminate blood flow to his penis causing it to either not get erect at all or become flaccid, it can also cause delayed ejaculation.


For a woman it can be frustrating as well, because society dictates that men are suppose to want "sex all the time" or that if they "are attracted to a woman he would get an erection". They see a man who is turning them down for sex or not able to performance in bed as a direct correlation of how they feel about them. This can be very upsetting for a woman, but with proper understanding of the situation a woman can learn that it is more about her husbands fear of perform than it has to do with her. Many men in long tern relationship have struggled with this issue and a woman being supportive and helpful can be a solution to the problem rather than create an even bigger issue.


When a man is satisfied with his relationship, he is usually satisfied with his sexual performance as well as his partner is satisfied sexually with him. The biggest level of partner disaffection in relationship was with men that had premature ejaculation. As demonstrated by Revicki and colleagues (2008), it is likely that men with premature ejaculation report higher levels of partner frustration, anger, or disappointment, given that men who have premature ejaculation have a negative connotation of being selfish (Masters & Johnson, 1970) It may also be the case that a poor relationship leads to premature ejaculation.


In conclusion sexual satisfaction relies heavily on a male’s sexual performance as well as his partner’s sexual satisfaction with him. When a man is not able to perform sexually or satisfy his parent sexually it can lead to low desire and even lack of desire. The positive aspect of this is that with most men it can be resolved and is not a medical condition. With the right information and help with a professional who treats sexual problems a man can regain full sexual function again. When a man has a sexual problem in his relationship it is important to include his partner in the process, so that both can learn how to help each other maintain a healthy sex life.


A boost in Testosterone may be better than Anti-Depressants for treating mild depression

Posted on May 4, 2015 at 1:40 PM Comments comments (1)

One of the major factors contributing to men with erectile dysfunction is stress. Extreme stress for long periods of time due to many factors in a man’s life can lead to problems with sexual function. When this happens it can also cause symptom of slight depression and higher cortisol levels. Cortisol is a hormone secreted by the adrenal glands as a biological response to stress, which is why many refer to it as the "stress hormone."

Although cortisol has been linked to a number of medical conditions, the most common is a condition known as adrenal fatigue . Adrenal fatigue is a medical condition where the adrenal glands become overworked and don't produce enough cortisol to keep up with the body's demand.

Symptoms of cortisol imbalance in men are similar to those typified by other hormonal imbalances such as andropause (the male menopause) and often include the following:

• Fatigue

• Depression

• Weight gain

• Bone and muscle loss

• Foggy thinking

• Anxiety

• Irritability

• Erectile Dysfunction

In some men they may go to the psychiatrist and get a prescription for an anti-depressant which in most cases will cause more problems with erectile dysfunction. Another option for many men would be to slightly increase their testosterone. A test to show testosterone levels is recommended but it may not show an accurate reading according to what a man’s levels were before the stressor began. A healthy approach to treating erectile dysfunction linked to stressors is to seek counseling with a clinical sexologist and help with increasing testosterone levels for mild depression.


A new study suggests that men with borderline testosterone levels have higher rates of depression and depressive symptoms than the general population. According to Irwig and his colleagues who studied 200 men between 20 and 77 years of age whose testosterone levels were borderline (between 200 and 350 nanograms per deciliter). The researchers collected the men’s demographic information, medical histories, medication use, and signs and symptoms of hypogonadism. They then remeasured the men’s total testosterone and assessed depression from their medical history and with the validated Patient Health Questionnaire 9 (PHQ-9).

Using a score of 10 or higher on the PHQ-9, 56 percent of the men in the study had significant depressive symptoms, known diagnosis of depression and/or were using an antidepressant, according to the study’s findings.

Their rates of depressive symptoms were markedly higher than the 15 percent to 22 percent in an ethnically diverse sample of primary care patients and the 5.6 percent among overweight and obese U.S. adults, the researchers noted.

The most common symptoms reported were erectile dysfunction (78 percent), low libido (69 percent), and low energy (52 percent).

The men in the study also had a high prevalence of overweight (39 percent), obesity (40 percent) and physical inactivity, according the researchers. They found that, other than walking, 51 percent of the men did not engage in regular exercise.

The studies resulted in men with borderline testosterone levels have a higher rate of depression and depressive symptoms than the general population, according to the research.




What happened to my sex drive?

Posted on January 5, 2015 at 5:20 PM Comments comments (2)

Loss of sexual desire for a women can take a toll on her marriage........

There are many reasons why a woman may suffer from the loss of sexual desire and not all of them are psychological----

In fact a percentage of women who do suffer from loss of desire, it is due to an imbalance in her hormones. Anytime a woman's hormones are not regulated she can fluctuate with feelings of high sexual desire to feelings of low sexual desire to none at all. Some women who have hormonal imbalances may even go through a period of time when they feel disgusted towards sex. When a woman has taken birth control pills, had a baby, or is going through menopause, all of this can affect her hormones.

When we look at a woman's natural monthly cycle (if she is not on birth control, pregnant or in menopause) she will experience times during her cycle where she feels more sexual than other times. These times are usually when she is ovulating and her testosterone levels are at their peak. Another time during her cycle when she may also feel more sexual is when she is menstruating, the reason for this is her estrogen and progesterone levels drop just a little leaving her testosterone levels higher. A few days after menses is over she may experience a drop in her sex drive and less lubrication when aroused. All of this is a natural cycle for a woman to go through, when her hormones are normal. Trying to tell a woman who has little to no testosterone that her lack of desire is all in her head is counterproductive and can lead to other psychological and physical problems. Trying to do therapy or counseling with a woman who has no sex drive due to hormone issues is not going to help either. The answer is if you feel you may have a hormonal imbalance is to take a saliva test.

If you are experiencing one or more of the following signs you may have hormonal imbalance

  • Sex drive is low or absent
  • If it is difficult to become aroused or you cannot maintain arousal during sexual activity
  • You have pain during sexual activity
  • You cannot experience orgasm
  • Vaginal dryness
  • You have no desire to masturbate
  • You feel no sexual attraction at all towards anyone (Ruling out situational loss of desire)
  • You have been on birth control pills recently or for a long period of time and notice a change in desire.
  • You have been pregnant or given birth and it has been over 3 months and you still feel no sexual desire.